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We're going on four years and have been talking about marriage since the very beginning. I'm sick of talking about it and hearing about how it will happen when we're done school, when we have more money, etc My boyfriend just wants to do things right, and he feels that we can't do it right when we're just finishing up with school, have student loan debt, etc I wish so much that men still asked women to marry them when they know they want it, not just when all conditions are "right".
It's taking the magic away out of starting a life together, especially if you've been living together for a long time already. The only advice I can give you is to be patient with him, but talk to him and explain that you don't feel secure when year after year he says he will, and then nothing happens.
Ask why exactly he has set this timeline for himself when you've already been together for several years. Have you discussed with him your reasons for wanting to get married?
Does he even want to get married, or do you think his 'planned' proposals are due to your influence? Is he looking forward to it at all? Has he expounded upon his reasons for wanting to?
You also haven't lived together for that long either. I would focus less on the act of marriage and more on his feelings in regards to whether he's ready. He says he's ready but obviously isn't. Perhaps he doesn't feel comfortable revealing the reasons why he's not ready.
It's important to understand his perspective.
He has reasons why he hasn't done it. I battled this with my relationship for a bit. Together 6 years, and his only real reason he could give was needing the money for the ring. And we worked through each issue. And you know what? He's been saving for a ring.
The money is there, now its just a matter of the right moment. It's in his hands, and I trust that yes he does want to marry me, and its a good feeling when he's the one who's ready to do it. On his own. He feels ready to move onto the next step. And thats what you need to wait for. There's a reason why your guy hasn't done it yet.
It may just be flat out not ready, even though yes this is something he wants to do. Only he can really solve this problem.
It is a hard thing, especially when they talk about it, they tell you they want to do it, but don't. There isn't much you can do, but accept the fact that he truly isn't ready.
There is certainly a bigger issue here. Keep in mind that yes, you have been together for 7 years. My guy is almost 29.
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Sep 26, I've been with my boyfriend for nearly five years and while I do not want to get married yet (and possibly ever) I am still aware of the fact that we are not married. Unmarried is a part of my. Mar 31, If a woman is dating a man for 10 years (or more), she has every right to ask that man if marriage is on the table. Ideally, she'd ask before a decade of her life passes by, but at some point Author: Madamenoire. May 16, I just heard about a young woman who ended a 10 year relationship with her college sweetheart. She wanted to get married. He just couldn't commit. It reminds me of the movie He's Just Not That Into You where Jennifer Aniston finally breaks up with her boyfriend of 7 years (Ben Affleck) after he tells her that he doesn't want to marry.
Or perhaps one of the reasons that divorce rates are sky high is becausepeople don't wait for the right conditions? Also, I just have to say that if marriage is particularly important for someone then I don't think it's a good idea to indefinitely wait around for the other person to ask. The perfect moment will come.
Jul 01, But I'm not sure I'm ready to get married right now and take things to the next level. We are both only 24 so it's weird to me that we'd be married before we could even rent a car. - Brendon W., Jan 17, Even though you've been together for 7 years, I've noticed that many men don't like to get married in their early or mids and would rather wait a bit longer. If you were 37, dating your bf for 7 years, i would be a lot more worried. If he says he will soon, I would back off and let him plan his surprise. May 18, I have been dating my high school sweetheart for 7 years now. He's been telling friends and family for years that he wants to marry me and is going to ask me. But has yet to do so and when asked why he hasn't asked me yet there's always some sort of excuse why. We've talked about getting a house together for a while, since we both live at home still (I'm 22 he's 24).
I want to get married but I haven't figured out how to propose. I want that moment to be perfect. I want it to be in a way that she wants. But every time I get close to setting a date to do it and planning how I am going to do it, I freak out and decide to procrastinate.
That's what it is. I'm procrastinating because I'm a little nervous I'll screw the whole thing up. I don't have time or money. Weddings are expensive and take up so much time to put together.
It's like we've already lived together for over three years now and we're just trying to work hard at our own careers that we, or I at least, feel like a wedding right now would just be such a stressor on ourselves and our bank accounts. I'm kind of keeping my options open.
Sep 23, "Dating" for 10 years and still not engaged/married! Home › Forums › Complicated Situation / Mixed Signals › "Dating" for 10 years and still not engaged/married! This topic contains 12 replies, has 1 voice, and was last ated by Lee 4 years, 7 months ago.
I've been in a long relationship with my girlfriend for close to three years now. I love her, don't get me wrong.
But a part of me, a very small part, is kind of keeping my options open. Like, I don't know for sure if she's the one and I don't want to get a divorce later on.
Dating 7 years and still not married
If, in a few years from now, I'm percent sure she's the girl forever, I'll make it official. She's not into the idea of marriage. It's weird with us because I'm all about getting married but my girlfriend is not about that at all. She's pretty beat up from her parent's recent divorce, so about a year into our relationship she made it clear that marriage is not on her cards and that I shouldn't even bother proposing. IDK, I haven't thought about it. Everyone asks me this question about when I'm going to propose.
"Dating" for 10 years and still not engaged/married!
The truth is, I don't know. I never think about it.
Maybe if she tries to break up with me or give me a marriage ultimatum, I'll propose. But until then, it just doesn't cross my mind ever, unless someone asks.
Jun 14, Wanting to get married is a good thing; it's a natural consequence of mature love and self-giving. So in the same way that it's important for you to try to understand your boyfriend's desires, it's also important that he understands your desires and does his best to help you feel confident that he is taking your relationship seriously. Sep 04, No, You're Not In A Common-Law Marriage After 7 Years Together It's a pervasive myth of common-law marriage. And for a status assumed to . Dating sites are actually used by a Dating 7 Years And Still Not Married lot of women willing to enjoy casual sex. As well as a Dating 7 Years And Still Not Married lot of women don't looking for it. And a Dating 7 Years And Still Not Married lot of women who are okay with both/
We're still in an LDR. We've been dating for four years but three of those years have been her living in Toronto and me living in California. I don't see marriage in our cards until we at least live in the same country. None of my bros are married.