I recently narrowed my writing focus from a general marriage theme to concentrate on the early years of marriage. They poured into our lives as singles and took us through months of formal and informal premarital counseling. I still remember the early morning chill as we walked to meet with one of them every Tuesday morning. We continued with our hangouts after we got married and right up until our move two years ago. Not to say that we are now perfect as couple and have never had issues. I know I have many readers and subscribers that are older in marriage.
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding, Nyasha!
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Hope you find mentors for the journey. Great stuff, Ngina! Love the quote from your husband. My wife and I technically courted too because we were in different states. I like how you distributed going on a date vs. And having a mentor is huge! Thanks Ngina. I think sharpening your focus to young marrieds is a smart move, Ngina. I think this would have helped our rocky start-averting some of the messes we made early on.
Eve's marriage relationship was altered by the Fall in that she: 1. would have many children with sorrow 2. would be ruled by her husband 3. would desire her husband 4. all of these. Start studying BIBLE DOCTRINE - UNIT 7: FRIENDSHIP, DATING, AND MARRIAGE THE DEFINITION OF FRIENDSHIP. Learn vocabulary, terms, and more with flashcards, games, and other study tools. Becoming Best Friends in Marriage. "We've been married for 15 years, and my husband and I are best friends." "I can't imagine being married to anyone else. My wife and I are best friends." These kinds of statements touch a deep chord in our hearts. Somewhere in the silent recesses of our hearts, a song begins to form.
Great thoughts, sweet friend. You have such wisdom beyond your six short years! God has richly blessed you and in turn you bless us!
I agree with you Beth, being mentored by a couple has a lot of value, i wish every couple had a mentor couple. We are five years old in marriagebut began our 6th in Aug! We have a saying in my native tongue, Afrikaans, that I am going to translate as is; we always say that getting married is not like buying a horse. Friendship is one of the anchors of a good marriage.
Blessings XX Mia. Love that saying, says it plainly!
From Friendship to Marriage - 6 Steps to a Wedding
I love the inclusion of mentors in this list, Ngina. Great insight!
May 01, Building a friendship before dating. Being friends before dating is never a bad idea as it means that there is nothing superficial about the relationship. In fact, the chances of having a successful relationship also go up if you are friend first. But before forming a friendship before a serious relationship, you may have genuine confusions and questions like 'how to be friends first before dating' or 'how long should you be friends . Feb 13, Friendship, Dating, and Preparing for Marriage People use different words to describe it, but every Christian dad I know wants it for his children-a pure and emotionally healthy path to the marriage altar.
It takes a humble heart to seek and learn from others. Very interesting to read your story, especially the no dating part. That is rare in the US but it does happen. My wife and I did date before marriage but our marriage was also sort of arranged by my dad, we had a weird mix.
Either way my parents and her parents played a hugely important role. I remember your story it was so very interesting and humorous, you do have a great dad.
This is great Ngina especially attending other weddings after you both were already married. Its does keep things into perspective and make you remember the day you joined together as one. I must say its refreshing to see this. I will forward this blog to my sister that is engaged as we speak. Awesome stuff. The only thing is she does not like or want mentorship from anyone, so maybe she can get it from reading your blog.
Thank you for forwarding the blog to her, i pray it helps her because we need all the help and encouragementesp as we start out.
Really great post. I really like the last pointnever really thought about that but I guess you are right! So proud of you for listening to God. But make no mistake about it, the heavily involved emotions did come!
All four of our children appreciated Terrie and I caring enough to walk with them through this part of their lives. Sometimes they appreciated it more than others, but none of us would trade those journeys for anything. And, the best part about it is that grandchildren begin to appear on the other side! His biblical vision has led the church to become one of the most dynamic independent Baptist churches in the nation. He has been married to his wife, Terrie, for over thirty years and is the father of four married children all serving in Christian ministry.
Be communicative. Be firm. Be understanding.
Friendship dating and marriage
Be vigilant. Be loving. That said, here are some thoughts that we worked through with our children in high school: Relationships in high school should just be good friendships. I asked our children to keep high school relationships to a friendship level, and they honored that.
Establish clear boundaries of friendship communications. We talked with our kids about how much time they were allowed to spend with just one person as opposed to group activities.
Married couples have a different dynamic when it comes to their friends because there is an added measure of checks and balance. Your marriage is the one friendship . From Friendship to Marriage - 6 Steps to a Wedding. Marriage Personal Growth Single life. Mar 05, Marriage and Dating: Why Being a Friend First Is Important March 5, By Deb Hirschhorn, PhD, Relationships and Marriage .
We limited email, phone calls, and texting with friends of the opposite sex. And we made it clear that we expected that conversation to not take place in high school at all.
Talk openly with your kids about temptation and the need for boundaries. I like to use the illustration of the guardrails at the Indianapolis Their purpose is obvious-protection. Our children are thankful too. Encourage participation in youth Bible studies, activities, and camps.
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If you have personal differences with a youth pastor or youth helper, work them out in a scriptural manner. But beyond that, we looked for a person with a heart tender to the Lord. This is not difficult to perceive if your own heart is sensitive toward God.
Some friends are more like family and other friends are more like acquaintances. Some friends are needy and other friends are very generous. Each friend that you have in your life should bring something to the table, just as you should provide a certain dynamic to that friend in return.
Married couples have a different dynamic when it comes to their friends because there is an added measure of checks and balance. Your marriage is the one friendship that should always come first.
This friend is stuck to your like glue. The same outcome is true when it comes to positivity - if you surround yourself with positive elements then that is what your outcome will be. Try to surround yourself with other Christians that will build you up.