Bad Feminist is a collection of essays where Gay writes to debunk common and demeaning stereotypes about feminists and feminism. Reading this book will help show you a different view of the current state of feminism and help to open your mind. This book is an excellent look into heterosexual dating in today's climate, from a man's perspective but written by a woman. It's easy to get wrapped up in Adelle Waldman's first novel as it tells the tale of a "self-absorbed writer living in NYC," after successfully writing his first book and emerging from a "freelance lifestyle" the protagonist tries to deal with the newfound attention from women, including his ex-girlfriend. James Baldwin's s classic, Giovanni's Room , is just as relevant today as it was when it was first written many years ago.
Jul 10, Donna rated it liked it Shelves: modern-romance. I was given a copy for my honest opinion. This starts out with a snarky voice and gradually matures as she struggles through life's trials. I don't care for horoscopes and such but I thought it was well handled in this story. It was interesting how different her two best friends were and yet they remain loyal and supportive in their own quirky and opposite ways, often giving some horrible advice. Everything seemed to be resolved by one honest and open conversation that was long overdue yet pops I was given a copy for my honest opinion.
Everything seemed to be resolved by one honest and open conversation that was long overdue yet pops up creating an abrupt end. Overall this is a fun and realistic look into the complexity of teen life. Aug 27, Heather rated it it was amazing. This book is a great book. It is very well written.
But I feel to old to be reading it. If I was in high school or in middle school. I would totally read it. I had a hard time getting into this book because of this. But other than that it was a good clean book. It would be very appropriate for these age groups Or anyone.
Jul 26, Cordelianne rated it did not like it. The only reason I even finished this book was, because I got the book in exchange for an honest review and I think you cannot properly review a book without having read the entire book. The writing style was quite childlike and even the obvious was spelled out. Sometimes there were writing errors as well. Furthermore there was a lot of telling instead of showing.
Examples of these are: 'Answer your question? I asked. Another thing that frustrated me is that the teenagers are all emailing with each other. The book was published in and we as youth don't use email to communicate. We use Whatsapp, Snapchat, Instagram, Facebook and other devices, but using email is not relating to the age group she is trying to reach.
The main character Emme has been cheated on in the past, so when she starts dating the 'it guy'. The most popular guy of the school. Everytime when he is just talking with another girl she gets insecure, because she has a lot of trouble letting go of the past and separating the two guys.
The communication between Brendon and Emme was horrible as well. Something that really bothered me were the female frienships in this book. They were based on dragging the other girls down. One of her 'best friends' Margaux gives fashion advice that is completely opposite of what is true she wants her other friends to look less nice so she gets all the attention and than at a funeral instead of supporting her friend she tries to hook up with one of the cousins of the Emme.
Emme saw a lot of the girls as a competition to her boyfriend, which resulted in a lot of negative vibes. The author also throws in a messed up love triangle.
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Emme uses Darren, a guy, who likes her to make Brendon jaleous without taking into account the fact that by doing so she is giving him hope. After Brendon and she quit fighting she just ignores him, untill the next time they are fighting.
This behaviour is not a good image of how to treat guys and none of her friends say anything about this. The plot was very boring. A lot of the time it was really dramatizing everything. The whole book could be summed up with this: get together, fight because of insecurities of the main character, get together, fight again and this continued the whole book.
It was really dragging on. On the contrary the ending felt rushed. You only see what happens to the two main characters and you get no closure of the other characters. Darren, grandpa and the rest So overall I wanted to like this book, but there were too many things I had problems with to like the book! Love is fickle isn't it? Especially when you're in high school. Even more especially when you're dating the guy that all the girls have crushes on. That's how it is for Emme.
She's dating Brendon, a congressman's son and the hottest guy in school. With having been hurt badly from a previous relationship is it possible for her relationship with Brendon to work even though it seems they come from different worlds? Or is the relationship doomed to crash upon the rocks? Perhaps their destiny is Love is fickle isn't it? Perhaps their destiny is written in the stars. This book was more than well written. It was captivating and showed great ingenuity. The storyline was exceedingly simple which may have been one of the best things about the book.
The author is creative and shows a biting wit that even the most shallow person would crack a smirk about. This book was very entertaining all the way to the end. I found myself remembering how it was to be their age. Life was crazy and I found myself relating a lot to the main character. This was definitely a work well done. I will be recommending this book. Mar 26, Amy rated it really liked it.
When you're sixteen, you face the Great Paradox: you feel invincibility like you've never felt before while feeling greater vulnerability than you ever have before. Emme discovers this the summer before her sophomore year of high school. Put in summer school by parents with vigorously ambitious goals for her, she is paired with Brendon Agretti on an assignment. THE Brendon Agretti, known equally for being the son of a senator and for his breathtaking good looks.
It's almost too good to be true. As When you're sixteen, you face the Great Paradox: you feel invincibility like you've never felt before while feeling greater vulnerability than you ever have before. As schoolwork becomes romance, Emme finds herself filled with insecurity. For one thing, she does not see how she can compete with the perfect Lauren, Brendon's gorgeous, smart ex-girlfriend.
For another, she doesn't even know what to wear to a picnic, much less how to comport herself at the country club. What if she embarrasses Brendon? What if she isn't good enough for him?
Rather than focusing on the core truth that you pay attention to how someone treats you, Emme succumbs to her insecurities. She listens to the wrong people and ignores her instincts. She is, of course, a typical teenage girl. What Emme can't see, though, is that her lack of faith could push Brendon away. There is so much to love about this book.
Krysten Lindsay Hager knows how teens think and speak, and she understands why Emme would feel overwhelmed by everything about Brendon - his looks, his popularity, his feelings for her, his exes, his family. Brendon is every teen girl's fantasy come true. Heck, he's every woman's fantasy come true.
He's kind. He's sweet. He's passionate.
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And he pays attention. Hager has a subplot involving Emme's and Brendon's families that is particularly poignant, adding a layer of bittersweet loveliness to this book. Another subplot, involving their friends, shows you that sometimes you can misplace trust.
Your friends may not have your best interests at heart. Dating the "it" guy is no easy thing to do, at least not for Emme. She's going to need to figure it out, though, which, thankfully, she realizes. Apr 23, Michelle Austin rated it really liked it Shelves: alpha-book-club-reviews. Dating the It Guy was a good 4 star read. Emme is going through a recent breakup and heartbreak since her boyfriend was cheating on her. She has serious trust issues because of it. Brendon is a senator's son and is the it guy to a lot of girls including his ex girlfriend who doesnt seem to want to accept that its over.
They end up growing closer and start dating. Then the insecurities and trust issues kick in and start causing problems for Emme. We also discover that Emmes family is also dealing with some serious health issues with her grandparents.
I felt like I was back in high school again with all of the drama that is in this book. The struggles that Emme had were right on and my heart went out to her several times. The secondary characters were great. And the serious topic of alzheimer's really gives you a glimpse into what a family has to struggle with, Krysten Lindsay Hager does a great job of telling their story. I voluntarily reviewed an Advanced Reader Copy of this book. Nov 27, Hasanthi rated it really liked it.
After being cheated by her ex-boyfriend, Emma is reluctant to date another guy again. She meets Brendon, one of the most famous boys in her school. Lots of girls closely tail Brendon not to mention his ex-girlfriend. She has many insecurities in relationships. Emma goes through many things in her life. Her grandmother is hospitalized and her grandfather is showing symptoms of Dementia. She is very close to her grandparents and finds it difficult to cope with all these drama going on in her life.
Emma believes in numerology, horoscopes and crystals. She tries to find solutions to her problems in them.
Finally she believes that all the stars are in her favour, since she finds her soul mate. Emma is a wonderful girl, who loves her family. She goes thorough many ups and downs in her life. She is a vegan, believes in horoscopes, loves her family and pretty much concerns about good grades in class. She speaks volumes about hidden problems, insecurities in life and dealing with them.
The story is wonderful and the characters too. There is a deeper meaning to the plot, and important life lessons for the readers. Aug 30, Naturalbri Bri Wignall rated it it was amazing. I love Hagers ability to bring real life issues into a story, bring it to life and then teach you not only a life lesson, but how to trust and love. She always has a way with words and this book is just further proof to that. I am so glad I read this latest book of hers and cannot wait until the next.
The characters are easy to connect with, especially our main character. Like most of us growing up, she has insecurities, dwells on the what-ifs and wonders what the future holds. We can all relate to this, and to the things she learns as the story progresses. The pace is perfect, as it allows plenty of time to really get to know all of the characters, what is happening and truly understand what the main character is experiencing.
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I love that We have time to grow along with her and feel all the emotions of the read. This is truly a wonderful read, for all ages, but particularly for teens. I highly recommend it! Aug 07, Mummy Cat Claire rated it it was ok Shelves: ya-novelskindle-bookswtfread-inclean-romance.
This cover is to tantalizing. Totally sucked me right into its trap. Yeah, don't let a pretty cover fool you. I thought this book was going to be about a girl who found her right match, or the "it" guy meaning best guy for her, but no. This is about a high school girl who finds herself having a romantic relationship with the most popular guy in school.
This is the definition of the "it" guy. But honestly, that's This cover is to tantalizing. But honestly, that's just part of what it's like to be dating the "It Guy. You know how magazines call models and those socialites the 'It Girl' all the time? Well, he's like the male version. It's a lot to handle. Emme Trybus had a previous relationship with, John, another high school student who was just out for sex and fun, using people to fulfill his needs.
Total loser. Emme is now reluctant of guys because her self esteem took a dive after John's rejection. Brendon has just broken up with a girl he is expected to be with.
He's trying to find himself through all of the expectations and pressures from his family. He pursues Emme but can't see the manipulating acts around him. This creates problems for him. Brendon and Emme begin to date and discover each other's family, privilege and problems are similar yet highly different.
The book follows their path of discovering themselves and what they really want. I didn't love the characters.
Emme struggled with her grandparents being in poor health. Her grandmother was in the hospital and her grandfather has Alzheimer. This can be a blessing but also hard for children to deal with aging and ailing grandparents. Emme was a bit strange. She believed that she could imagine something and it would happen. Brendon was okay for me, not great. He was a generous sort but didn't get it!
He was so blind to others impressions of him and he allowed almost everyone to manipulate him. Even when he was told and things were explained The author really created high school students quite accurately. They both lacked the ability to solve problems and the misunderstandings in the book made sense. Their reactions and psyches were spot on with the audience theory and lack of experience in problem solving.
However accurate this all was, it wasn't very entertaining for me. The lack of communication was annoying and the fact that I wanted to just slap them holds me back from a better star rating. I found it strange that Brendon compared Emme to his sister before kissing her.
There is quite a bit of telling in areas. As far as my self esteem is concerned, while I do need to work on it more, as we all do for self esteem isnt something we can get enough of, none of us have a monopoly on it. And then I cannot forget how much I hurt him not too long ago.
By what definition? By whose definition? Without disclosing his personal business, I do know that this isnt the first time a woman hurt him. And while I wasnt there, Im sure it hurt him deeply. This is a disposable society. We have disposable plates, eating utensils, etc. Thank you for sharing your insights and experiences.
You are correct, it is always beneficial to share your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life. This respect should not be in relation to your personal relationship.
Continue to share your positive energy with the world. We always appreciate such supportive comments from our community members. Past Friday I emailed him about we need to talk, and yes he read it, but no verbal response. I read though that when people suffer with clinical depression, communication suffers.
However, I was a little surprised that he actually read it since even that has suffered a little. The last I actually saw him was when I was on my way to my gym, saw him sitting on the porch of that house.
I looked at him, he smiled and that was all. I dont know if he knows that Im aware of his situation. Give him an opportunity to reach out to you. You shared your thoughts and feelings with him.
Nov 10, If the guy is someone you have slept with (but not officially dated), he might not be interested in having a relationship or ongoing conversation. If no other options pop up, he will probably get back in touch with you when he wants another night together. If you are actually dating the guy, then he might just be busy. Feb 10, I'll admit, I am absolutely terrible at texting. In fact, it doesn't matter what type of message you send me - text, Snapchat, Twitter, Facebook, email - there's always a . When a guy reads a lot, he absorbs the creativity of authors as if through osmosis. Reading all those scenarios and stories in all of those books gives men ideas that they may not have had otherwise. If you're in it for the long haul, a heavy reader will find ways to keep things simplybeyondexpectations.com: Joseph Hindy.
He is aware that you want to speak with him. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship with you. You may want reach out to him in a couple of days.
This will give you another opportunity to share yourself with him. On July 4, I was walking, and saw him. And what he did made me think about what you said about his shyness. Though at first glance, I wasnt too sure it was him, I knew it was. But it was his reaction towards me that brought back to me what happened during the very first time we saw each other.
He saw me first, I know that because Im sure you know that inner knowledge when someone is staring at you, and so you look at the person. He stopped, looked, then a smile came over his face. Then all of a sudden he looked, then down and looked away, then looked back again. Then just as I was making up my mind he smiled again and walked on. I was absolutely delighted!
So, though I believed you about his shyness, now I know more than ever what I have to do. Yes, some feel and say that if a man really wants you, he knows what he needs to do, and therefore will, including introverts. And while I have no problem believing that, I dont treat individuals as a puppet, expecting each to follow a script laid out for them. Of course eventually I will expect him to do his part.
I mean, actually, that day while walking, he did do his part. He stopped, gave me his attention that I crave. You have the freedom to make whatever decision you want to make.
22 Books Every Twentysomething Guy Needs To Read. This book is an excellent look into heterosexual dating in today's climate, from a man's perspective but written by a . A guy I have been dating for over 7 months has dropped is text communication significantly, there's NO WAY I could not feel insecure when I all of a sudden don't hear from him for hours or overnight when it wasn't that way for most of the time we have been seeing each simplybeyondexpectations.com: Eric Charles. Dating the Guy Upstairs by Amanda Ashby is a friends-to-lovers romance with minimal angst and maximum sweetness. It is a refreshing take on the premise, and delightfully the characters are, for the most part, honest and upfront with one another/5.
He may not be aware that you are waiting for him to make the first move. It is possible that he is uncertain or confused about your feelings. If you want to develop a relationship with him, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. If you wait, then it is possible that life may take each of you away from each other. Today was most interesting. I took a walk somewhere, and so past his place. En route from the distance I saw him leave his place to get inside his car.
All of a sudden a woman bounds down the porch stairs to say something to him. But he turns, sees me, and enters his vehicle, yet she bends over the passenger side to say whatever.
She then straightens up, looks at me, he drives off. She then walks towards me and stops. I continue walking. As Im passing her I stoled a look. She then looks me up and down with daggers in her eyes, in other words with an attitude, a BIG attitude! But I just smiled, and greeted her with a hello, and continued on.
My friend feels she was jealous in that he probably said something to her as in him and I. Nevertheless I will admit that from what I saw, I did feel kinda good. Im feeling confused now.
It was you who cursed me out before we got to know each other. You must be missing some good Caribbean loving. There may be a variety of reasons for her actions. The two of them may be in a relationship. She may feel a strong emotional connection with him. You need to allow this experience to guide your actions. However, it is of utmost important that you make a decision with this relationship.
Either speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, or allow him to fade from your mind. You need to make a decision today, and then you need to take appropriate action.
So Im confused. But of course I cant express that because he doesnt know of my email tracker.
Dating a guy who reads will never be boring. For he will have his moments of solitude for his lovelies before you, but he does it discretely, in the bathroom, the middle of the night, meal times for he knows that nobody likes to be second, but on . Dating the It Guy Audible Audiobook - Unabridged Krysten Lindsay Hager (Author), Cait Frizzell (Narrator), Clean Reads (Publisher) & 0 more out of 5 stars 56 ratings/5(55). DATING THE GUY is a poignant story that delves deeply into the spectrum of human emotion and really focuses in on how deeply we feel those emotions as teenagers experiencing them for the first time. From the title and cover, I was expecting something light and fluffy but was pleasantly surprised by the emotional depth of the story and Hager's /5.
All night through the wee hours of this morning. He did it so much that I seriously began wondering if he was sleeping. Probably not much. Etta, you have shared many of your recent experiences. Many things have happened over the past month, and you will find benefit in making a final decision. Perhaps it would be beneficial for you to allow thoughts of him to fade at this time.
Next thing you know, the inbox looks like this. And by that point, you know have to think about both an adequate reply and a good reason for why you're texting back so late. It just snowballs into an unsolvable problem and next thing you know the inbox is looking like this. Well I'm here to tell you there's a little truth to that for texting too.
I'd love to have a lightning quick reply for everybody, but I'm not just gonna send back any old thing. Nah, I can't do that. It's gotta be the perfect reply, one that's interesting and one that keeps the conversation going. Here's the downside to that, though. When you can't think of the perfect reply you fall into problem number one.
When you're in high school and college, you have time to be a phenomenal text-er. Once you become and adult, though? Not so much.