Our question this month comes from a Single Mom dating a Single Dad and is feeling like she is sitting on the sidelines. It seems like everything is going well. We talk everyday and spend one to times a week with each other. He is also not taking the initiative to schedule dates with me but agrees to see me when I suggest. I understand he is busy, so am I.
The same can be said with his ability to plan time to be with you and speak with you. Actions speak louder than words. If you are a Single Woman dating a divorced dad and have a question, or a Divorced Dad seeking dating advice, send us an email to: Dating SingleDad. Your question will be posted to our readers and we will maintain your privacy.
RJ is self employed, entrepreneur living in San Diego and a father of three children. LOG IN. Log into your account. Recover your password. Single Dad. My mother had emotional shortcomings such as not fully loving me based on her superstion of the day I was born etc.
My father left us children for weeks at a time without food etc. My childhood was dark and sad. As a girl and teenager I dreamed of meeting Prince Charming. I now know that it seems so childish and premature in the idea of that happening; however it was what got me through most days.
So I thank my ex husband for wanting me to stay at home with them as well. God did bless me with being attractive. Lol But the only guys that have approached or have shown interest in me are guys that just want to have sex or are interested in just having another attractive woman by their side. Also, I take great pride in only having slept with one man, but what are my chances of finding a man that has the same old-fashioned values as me?
Great article! Thank you. I have a couple of questions. Doing joint family activities and events is understandable, but do they have to keep chit-chatting and posting family pictures of each other on social networking sites in front of friends, family and myself? Would be interesting to know your thoughts.
I have started to date a single dad of teenagers! I have asked to take it slow, but he seemed to want to go exclusive fairly rapidly.
I am a single mother of a 20 yr. I have more freedom with my time than he does with his two children, and his devotion to his daughter is sweet. I am in the stage where I have to go with the flow and see if he keeps pursuing me as their are lulls in his texts and calls. The dates have gone well no sex just lots of affection and kissing as we are getting to know each other on my insistence.
When I dated childless men, I did everything I could to rally my resources to care for my child while I went out on a date.
It meant getting to go out for 4 hours and then going to get my little one. Somehow, my single dad seems to jump at the beckon call and spontaneous planning of his teens. All things are possible if one resourceful. I completely agree with John McElhenney, This is a great write-up, though some are imaginary per your statement in answers, you did pour the inner thoughts of a Single Parent Dad.
I am a single parent with two kids, my thoughts are inline with you.
I accept the fact about introducing the kids, this should be the very well placed in the order of events once a major decision to next step is done and only after that. Many a times, a Single parent dad is not a choice for even a Single parent mom, world worships a single parent mom, but i have never even seen a heart felt remembrance of such people anywhere, People who know usrecognise the value we put in to raise the kids, however there is no where the world recognises it.
Without a father, the child would have not come in to this world, i do agree that women go through labor pain etc. Thanks again for the great post!
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That is so NOT true. You put it a lot better than me. But there are plenty of girl out there. I kind of like the other article about single dads and dating. I would be happy enough with or without children, although I come from a huge family so I grew up with big gatherings and parties and would prefer that sort of life. But men my age or even 10 years older either want to sleep around or want a woman who can give them children.
I would have no issue dating someone who already had children, although my concern would be that they both the father and the child would never consider me as a parental figure. I suppose it is dramatically different if the biological mother is not around and you can literally jump in and provide that role for them. That would be the perfect situation for me.
I would have no problem loving that child as my own, much in the same way that I would if I adopted. However, I know in most cases the mother is very much around and I would never have much if any say over the parenting. That makes it a lot harder. I find your comments related to only dating women who have children to be offensive.
For personal reasons I will not discuss, I did not choose to be childless and would absolutely change the situation if I could. My point, is that there are amazing childless women out there who would make phenomenal partners and stepmothers if only they were given the chance.
You could be missing out on an amazing woman who has so much love to give you and your kids. You are right to have pride and direction in your dating life, and I am happy for your success.
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In dating a few women without kids, perhaps I learned that I wanted them to have the same commitment to their kids that I had to mine. With a non-parent, my kids always seemed to be competition rather than a celebration. It sounds like you have been lucky enough to not date a narcissist. What I am trying to say is that child-status is not a reliable filter to find a kind and understanding partner. You can certainly stumble upon a mom who wants all of your attention, or even their kids to be in an elevated spotlight.
Offering an article of tips and marginalizing a whole sector of the dating community is a slippery slope. Just an idea. I am not bashing your opinions, just hope you might consider a broader scope.
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As a dating coach I should hope you recognize the way a potential partner could manipulate something like that or how your clients might be missing the mark with a checklist of attributes that are not helpful. It is VERY possible to find a childfree woman who will ALSO make your kids a joy, priority, and something to be celebrated without trying to be a mom replacement.
I feel like the message behind your desire to date a mom is to have a connection over your kids. This is possible with a childfree woman. Good luck. I think I wrote to you before about single dads dating childless women. I am childless through infertility and miscarriage and am a widow. He has an eleven-year-old daughter, a year-old daughter and a twenty-four-year-old son.
Same mum, health reasons for the gap. My partner has two nights a week with his daughters and alternate weekends. I met the son first. I was far more nervous about meeting them, but it went really well and now the daughters and the son often ask to see me when they have weekend time with their dad.
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Sometimes I do things with the girls while their dad is doing household chores. We love to cook together and they like being in my studio, painting. Other times I am very happy to do my own thing - I work and am slowly separately building up my later- life art career, so I have no need to spend all weekend every weekend with my partner and the girls when they are alternate weekending with him. I have got room for them in my life and like them too - a lot.
But then prejudice often means the person with fixed ideas is the poorer! But we can listen and learn.
JM, thank you for your telling story. You are correct, childless women have much to offer. I have dated several childless women and was not put off by their lack of progeny.
Again, I agree those kids would have missed out had you not had a relationship with their father. I am happy for you and send hopes of the best future for you all. Thanks again for connecting with me. Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Notify me of follow-up comments by email. Notify me of new posts by email. This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed. Sign up for more goodness. Feeling the Feelings Men are often accused of not feeling their feelings.
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Lib 23 Oct Reply. Good luck to both of us! Yeah, I saw that. Good luck to all of us out there. Sometimes jobs or other circumstances can make staying close to the kids more difficult, but the sacrifice to stay close is worth it for the stability and connection that the children need.
Learn the hows and whys of staying in the proximity of your ex and the children. If you are the non-custodial parent after a divorce, you are likely on the hook for child support. Child support rules are often quite difficult and the risks of not keeping up can have big financial and other consequences. And often dads have a hard time making these payments, particularly when their employment or others circumstances change.
If you are fortunate enough to have been granted joint custody of the kids with your ex, you need to know the keys to managing this important relationship.
How a Divorced Dad Can Find Women to Date Be careful of the bar and club scene. As a general rule, bars and clubs are not Networking still works. If you visit job search sites like the one at simplybeyondexpectations.com, Carefully explore Internet dating. There are many, many Internet dating services. Oct 16, How To Date a Divorced Dad is the Q&A Single Parent Dating Advice section on SingleDad. Our question this month comes from a Single Mom dating a Single Dad and is feeling like she is sitting on the sidelines. How To Date a Divorced Dad: Life on the Sidelines. SingleDad wants to help you understand Single Parent Dating from a Man's perspective 4/5(1).
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