By chica , July 22, in Dating and Romantic Relationships. Merhaba everyone I am new to the forums. I am dating a man from Adana and we have been dating a little over a month. He seems very sweet, but he is also very hard-working Sometimes we have communication problems because he speaks English fairly well, but oftentimes he comes across something that he doesn't know how to say. Unfortunately, I do not know Turkish. I have been trying to learn it but it is a lot more difficult because it is nothing like the languages I already know!
You may have heard of real stories of soulmates thousands of miles apart finally meeting and getting married. You too may have a higher chance of succeeding in a long-distance relationship with Vietnamese women.
The main reason is the culture in Vietnam, and the way hot Vietnamese women live their lives. Sexy Vietnamese women are known for their beauty. If you are from the west, then you should know that Asian women are exquisitely beautiful and gentle, especially Vietnamese women.
Their beauty is the fruit of their lifelong commitment to taking proper care of themselves.
Maybe the first thing you notice about them is their captivating eyes, their luscious silky hair, or their frail slender body of a beautiful complexion. These physical attributes never fail to captivate men. It is not just their beauty alone that many men want.
Such beauty would also be passed down to their children, and anyone wants to have beautiful children. Of course, beauty is not everything.
Hot Vietnamese brides boast both brain and beauty, which makes them perfect candidates for marriage. While they are beautiful, they know that it does not last forever. So, she needs something else to make her the perfect bride. Thanks to the loving families in which they got raised Vietnamese women grew up to become very compassionate.
They may ask you if you are okay with doing something. Often, they can accurately pick up hints and not nag at you at all. They can tell at a glance that you are having a bad day, and then they will behave accordingly. They know very well that there are some lines that they should not cross.
She will respect that and never mention it again. Of course, she also expects you to treat her the same way. A great homemaker is one of the best things a man can ever ask for.
We mean being able to cook, do chores, and generally make the home feel like where the heart is.
Apr 17, Thank you in advance for taking the time to read and answer. Hello I am a American man that has met and unexpectedly developed a relationship with a Turkish woman online. I have a few questions/concerns that I hope someone will be able to shed light on. This is . The French don't "date" So what is a man to do? Here is how to navigate the French dating system or lack of it! It is so funny to see how some social behaviours are exactly the same between France and the US, and others are completely different. One of the very obvious difference is the dating game. Dating in Istanbul as a foreigner Hey there, I'm an American guy in Istanbul for a couple of weeks and I've heard that it's not easy to approach Turkish women at bars. A friend of mine who visited last year told me that internet dating is big here.
Most of the time, this is where many women struggle. For instance, when it comes to chores, Vietnamese women do it so well that it looks too easy. They can finish all the chores in the most efficient way possible, and they will add additional decorations to your home to make it cozier and more colorful. They know how to do it just right so that you feel relaxed but fresh at the same time whenever you come home.
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They used to cook very often with their mothers since they were young. Over the years, they learned the secrets of so many exotic delicacies to keep you fed with different meals every day. There will not be a day with a dull dinner. What more could you ask for?
The first and foremost thing to know in this regard is that Vietnamese women value their families dearly. Your beautiful Vietnamese woman knows that she would not make it this far without her family. Because of this, you should expect her family to be very kind and loving to one another. You may be used to the usual bickering among family members in your life, and Vietnamese families are not any different.
Sure, they sometimes argue among themselves, but they will help each other out in a beat when trouble arises. Such a strong bond development starts as early as childhood, which helps your Vietnamese mail order bride to be such a loving and understanding person.
Because she loves her family, you can take it as a sign that things are going well between you two when she invites you to see them. For Vietnamese families though, there is nothing to worry about. Her parents will see you as an excellent man if their daughter introduces you to them. They know their daughter well. They know that she does not just pick a man from the streets and bring him home to them.
The fact that she introduces you to them is already a sign that you two would make a perfect couple. Moreover, expect them to know everything about you, in a good way.
If your beautiful Vietnamese woman genuinely loves you, she will tell her family all about you even before you see them. Now, you might be wondering why she is so excited when she finds a man to love.
Well, it must have something to do with starting a family. The thing is, family values extend beyond the existing family members. They also cover the beauty of starting one as well. Your beautiful Vietnamese woman sees marriage as a lifelong bond, and remarrying is almost considered a taboo. However, that does not mean that she would allow herself to be abused. As such, she chooses her man very carefully. So, you can say that you are very fortunate if she chooses you.
She, in turn, would also love to know your family.
So, introduce her to your family when the right time comes. However, although I think this guy has good intentions, I worry that he is trying to "own" me by buying me so many things. However, he said that Turkish men are taught to impress a woman like this and that Turkish women expect this from them I don't know if this is true!! He seems pretty Westernized in some cts. I was really worried about coming across as an easy, American girl, so I tried to not show a lot of skin in public, but he has traveled a lot outside of Turkey so I think that it doesn't really bother him.
Jun 13, Yes we are, I don't think turkish women cares about their partners' religion at all (except hijabis). Oh also even if she doesn't wear a hijab but you see more hijabis than non hijabis around her, it means she's religious too. I meant I've seen ma. While many sexy Turkish women are interested in merely dating, a large portion of them wants marriage. Their view on marriage is also very traditional. You will find that the best Turkish brides want a man who can provide for the family. There are mostly 3 types of Turkish girls, There are the Ones that are shallow as shit and are only looking for money/foreign guy only types, 2nd ones are the types that think they are hot shit and have the ego of kim kardashian while dressing like a slut(TIr lastiginden daha cok hava olur bu tiplerde.), 3rd ones are the insecure and shy types.
He is Muslim, but non-practicing. Anyway, what can I expect in a relationship with a Turkish man?
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My guy seems very sweet and although he says that all Turkish men are jealous, I have never seen him get jealous or controlling. What do Turkish men want out of a relationship with an American girl?
I am very independent and I worry if that is a problem. I just want to understand that cultural differences I can expect so that I can understand them and work through them.
Also, he plans on staying in the US to work. He is in the process of getting his PhD. Hi chicaWelcome to the forum. In all honesty, if you want to understand his culture, you would need to visit Turkey, and experience it with your own eyes, and then talk to him about things that don't sit right with you, to see where he's coming from.
Obviously, it will depend on his upbringing and his family's expectations of him, which you might only really understand if you visit. It was our 12 year wedding anniversary yesterday, I met my husband in Istanbul, and he visited my family in England before we got engaged. Good luck. Hi Chica and welcome from me too.
It's hard to generalise really, some Turkish men will spoil their girl friends and some don't same as American men I guess. What can you expect from him as a Turk, again, it hard to say and would say that Sue was spot on really. To understand your man more, should the relationship get more serious in time, before you commit you should visit and stay with his family in Turkey and see how they interact with one another as you will get an insight as to how they live and understand a different side to him.
Although it is far too early to think about a future together you can ask him about what he thinks about the lives of Turkish woman and the role they play, it would be a fair question to ask as an American woman you would be curious to know.
Turkish men can be jealous and controlling by not all, but as your relationship is fairly new those signs may appear later but then they may not. Thanks for the feedback everyone! I have tried to learn a little bit about his culture. So far, most of the stuff has been pretty basic. I know most of the Turkish population is Muslim but he is not practicinghe took me to a Turkish restaurant to show me the food, we've made Turkish tea together, I watched "My Father My Son" with him, and I understand that family is of extreme importance in Turkey.
Some of the cts of Turkish culture like the strong family unit remind me of the Hispanic culture that I have studied! When it comes to relationships, he says that Turkish women expect more out of their men, but that it decreases over time. So a guy might go all out when he is trying to get a girl to be his girlfriend, but a few months in, he might not try as hard. I've asked him about the role of women in Turkey, and as far as I know, they are pretty liberated.
They are Muslim, but have a lot more freedom than most Muslim women. While they are expected to take care of the kids and the house like in the USthe majority of them work. I think it is also a generational thing. This guy is in his 20's, and he said that in campuses, college kids are a lot more liberated. Hookah is also really common in the culture, but he tried to stop smoking And congrats on passing so many happy years with your Turkish husband! Do you speak Turkish as well? If I spoke Turkish I would feel a little less out of the loop!
My Turkish husband and I are in our 13th year of marriage, but I can't really offer any more than the excellent advice already given here. The only thing I would advise though, if the relationship appears to be getting serious, is for you both to set some groundrules based on the differences in both cultures In my opinion communication is the key to a successful marriage Good Luck x.
I think that if you browse through the romantic relationship forum and the marriage forum you may get a better idea of the culture, especially if you look at this thread although it's rather long.
Sorry Chica but I disagree, maybe in the cities a lot of women go out to work but in Turkey as a whole the majority do not. Their "liberation" is not the sort of liberation that you have in the U. Every now and then we hear a story about how a village has bucked the trend and started a womens' cooperative making or doing something but these sorts of stories are very few and far between.
I agree with Cukurbagli about the situation of women and work. Many of the women with whom I have spoken do not see working for someone else as liberating. They are pleased that the little their husbands earn is enough for them to to able to spend time cleaing their own houses instead of cleaning someone else's.
Apart from teachers who, unlike in most Western countries, are highly respected, working women are at best pitied and at worst looked down on. As for relationships, part of the tingle of a new relationship is all that asking questions and sharing and finding out about each other. Take your time, you will definitely find good advice here but your boyfriend is the only one who is going to provide you to the answers to your questions.
Also you could read these newspapers to give you idea of what happens in Turkey. You will find that one paper leans to the left and the other to the right of politics.
Thank you Reyhan! That was all very helpful! I could kind of see family values in the movie "My Father My son" I can't remember the name in Turkish! It was interesting to see how incredibly close the family was and how important family is in Turkey. My boyfriend also told me that at Turkish weddings, the man has to drink a cup of coffee after the bride pours salt in it Supposedly it symbolizes how the man should respect the woman in the marriage and not complain.
I quite liked that :DAlso, he said that Turkish men generally respect women for everything that they do: cooking, cleaning, and sometimes having a job. I am crafty and take care of myself laundry, cooking, etc. He said that he is expected to give a lot of gifts when he returns home to Turkey for a short vacation. He is also used to spending a lot of money.
I, on the other hand, am frugal and save a lot. If I really want something, I buy it, but I think about it a lot first! Where I live in Turkey the coffee isn't drunk at the wedding it happens before when the families meet to discuss a possible engagement. The girl will make coffee to impress the propective inlaws, she can sometimes put salt into the boyfriends coffee either to test him or to show that she isn't in agreement with the engagement. In some cases if the girl makes the coffee badly she can be turned down as a perspective bride.
Yes, family is very important in Turkey and I've found that the bond between mother and son is usually very strong. Gifts, I often wonder if its just about showing how well they have done in their new country. Unfortunately, the giving of gifts can get out of hand but that is a whole different topic.
Oh my goodness. That coffee we had. I thought it tasted strange. So mrs fil was trying to tell me something, perhaps subconsciously.
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She said it was because she is culinary challenged. To find out after all these years I think in your case if it wasn't her culinarily skills at fault she was testing you to see if you were made of sterner stuff, You obviously passed the test :. Hi ChicaI'm a little late adding to your thread, as I just got back from Turkey to Uk last week, and have been settling back home and catching up.
I'm a relative newly wed to some of the others here - I've been married to my Turkish hubby for 5 years.
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Giving you my take on 'Turkish Culture' would probably take ages, and probably be useless to you. In the end, you make your own culture in a relationship. The generational differences you wonder about are more apparent in some areas than others. There's a good chance that if you visit a village, you'll see that most girls move from their mother's house to their marital home - or maybe even to their mother-in-law's house - and they would expect to lead quite a domesticated life of housekeeping and visiting family.
As someone has said already, there's no substitute for actually going over there for a visit when the time is right. Visiting your boyfriend's family may give you an insight into the sort of family roles that he envisages - but then again, having expanded his own horizons, he may choose to live differently to them! Still, it helps build the picture of what has made him the person he is. A member of the forum I run for girls with Turkish partners sorry for the blatant plug!
She's over in Turkey at the moment, having just had their Turkish wedding and staying with the family for the first time. You could either look out for her on the site see the link below in my signatureor I could put you in touch with each other if you like. But don't feel obliged - just if you think it might help. I wish you luck in your relationship.
I know many girls who having met a Turkish man have a real thirst and curiosity for all things Turkish - but in the end, I think it's good to see faults and pitfalls as well as seeing the good things. Every culture has its good and bad cts. Hope everything works out well for you. Wow, you've asked so many questions that it's difficult to know where to start. Firstly, what I would say to you is, try to keep your feet on the ground and let things take their natural course.
You've only been dating this man for just over a month, and as he works such long hours - and there is a language barrier - you'd do much better in getting to know him as a person by going out with him and sharing time together, than by trying to find out every nook and cranny about his culture - when he doesn't even intend on living in Turkey - and is hoping to settle in the US.
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I know it's natural to want to discover a little about someone's culture when you start dating someone from a different country, but only having known him for a month I get the impression you're focusing too much on his background, almost as though you're banking on spending the rest of your life with him.
It seems terribly quick to want to know all the ins and outs of his culture at such an early stage.
I know you say there's a lnaguage barrier between you both, but really, the onus is on him to learn your language - he's the one who wants to settle in the US out of interest, what is he reading for his PhD and what language is he studying it in? It's also him who needs to learn about your culture and how he'll have to adapt to living and settling in the US.
Of course, if your relationship continues, deepens and becomes serious, then you will want to know about his family background etc - just as you would any man. But trying to learn about this man by studying Turkish culture is pointless: he's an individual and you can't lump all Turkish men in the same boat. Some are very Westernised and some are not; some are very liberal and some are very staunch.
And with all due respect, finding out how to make good Turkish coffee is not going to make him fall in love with you - he'll just think you're a good coffee maker. I can tell you now that my partner who I've been with for 7 years doesn't rate my Turkish cooking skills, but he still loves me despite that, and he still respects me.
When you said your boyfriend told you that Turkish men respect women who cook, clean and go out to work, I'm inclined to think it's more to do with them liking them to clean and cook, than respecting them for it. So if you don't mind me saying this, I'd be a little wary of that statement of his.
It sounds like he's letting you know now what he expects from a wife, and he's sweetening it by saying it's a 'respect thing'.